With the percentage of of unplanned pregnancies and STD's multiplying in our nation, many young lovebirds think that it is a smart idea to get married early to try to avoid such things happen to them. (god forbid.) :O Some would think that this is a smart idea, while others say that that should not be your only motive for making a lifetime decision.
I think for an American couple to stay true to each other is a shock in itself, but if the couple has such an amazing chemistry to decide to tie the knot, then I say that they should ponder certain choices and decide if their reason is really just an acting on their infatuation, or a wise decision that would benefit the both of them.
Some things that they are going to want to consider are their careers, children, money, and help.
Do you think that getting married will help you pursue your career or just distract you? Many statistics think that it is wisest to wait until you are completely done with school before you decide to get married, because you never know where your career may take you, and that may not be what your significant other may want to do.
Do the both of you want children? What if one of you wants just 2 and the other person wants 11? Will you be able to compromise?
The biggest issue in marriage is money. Some spouse are frequent wal-mart shoppers, while their partners are utterly high-maitenance. Will you want to have join accounts or separate accounts when you get married? what do you think would be easier? (I don't care too much for money...cause money can't buy me love ;P)
The last important thing that a couple who wants to get married is help. When you having problems who will you want to turn to for help? Your Parents? Your in-laws? A relationship therapist? And if so, will you both be willing to take the advice and act on it?
If a couple isn't able to compromise all the things mentioned, then maybe they should consider putting off their marriage until they are able to, or their relationship may end up failing.
Friday, April 10, 2009
Friday, April 3, 2009
My argument
Being the blessed individual that I am, I get to go to school for free and live in a dorm free of charge. My dorm is co-ed, and there is about 8 guys to every girl. This being said, a lot of girls will *ahem* "date-around," until they feel that their needs are met and they are satisfied with their pick. Often times I see girls claim that they are "crazy about their boyfriends, found everything that they have ever wanted in a 'man,' and they are even considering living with them once they are done with school." Yet they are self-conscious, un-self-satisfied, and unbalanced. Their entire world evolves around trying to impress their boyfriends and meeting their needs.
Now, I am not saying I have the greatest relationship up there, but I definitely know that it is a healthy one. My boyfriend knows that school is #1, and he is #2, and if it meant leaving him to graduate he would understand. I have with him for 2 years, and within those 24 months, 18 of them have been long distant, yet I still manage to make time for him through out my day. Although I know that I am not the only girl in the dorm whose fortunate enough to have a boyfriend like this, I am one of few.
So the argument I am going to make in my next essay is what is considered a true mature relationship to our generation? Why do we feel the need to have to date around,be attracted to certain stereotypical things in the media, and have certain fulfilled needs? I will also analyze peoples definition of conditioned and unconditioned love. It's going to be fun.
As far of the course of action goes...as I am suppose to wait for a response? I am 6's and 7's here. :(
Now, I am not saying I have the greatest relationship up there, but I definitely know that it is a healthy one. My boyfriend knows that school is #1, and he is #2, and if it meant leaving him to graduate he would understand. I have with him for 2 years, and within those 24 months, 18 of them have been long distant, yet I still manage to make time for him through out my day. Although I know that I am not the only girl in the dorm whose fortunate enough to have a boyfriend like this, I am one of few.
So the argument I am going to make in my next essay is what is considered a true mature relationship to our generation? Why do we feel the need to have to date around,be attracted to certain stereotypical things in the media, and have certain fulfilled needs? I will also analyze peoples definition of conditioned and unconditioned love. It's going to be fun.
As far of the course of action goes...as I am suppose to wait for a response? I am 6's and 7's here. :(
Friday, March 27, 2009
Week 9 blog..
I'm not even going to lie, I enjoyed the 2 week period we went there without blogging, even though I find it to be a very easy subject, Professor Merchant doesn't always pick the fun topics.
So I am suppose to respond to the comments that have been given to me in my past blogs.
Well, quite honestly I am what you call "a last minute blogger," which simply defines that I ususally wait until the very LAST minute to post my blogs, preferablly 1:30, 1:45.... and in doing so only gives about 15 minutes for my fellow peers to comment by blogs. My peers being the prioritizers that they are, have long blogged and commented before I even have a chance to stir-up a thought to blog about, and in doing so leaving me commentless.
However, there have been a few occassions where they were running behind on time just as much as I, and they were nice enough to give me their two cents. Mostly people were agreeing with me, which most of the time I do not mind; but from time to time I enjoy people disargreeing with me completly to the point where they make me see things from there point of view. I like arguementive and persuasive comments. C'mon people don't be shy, I promise I won't bite, because I like to argue. :D
So I am suppose to respond to the comments that have been given to me in my past blogs.
Well, quite honestly I am what you call "a last minute blogger," which simply defines that I ususally wait until the very LAST minute to post my blogs, preferablly 1:30, 1:45.... and in doing so only gives about 15 minutes for my fellow peers to comment by blogs. My peers being the prioritizers that they are, have long blogged and commented before I even have a chance to stir-up a thought to blog about, and in doing so leaving me commentless.
However, there have been a few occassions where they were running behind on time just as much as I, and they were nice enough to give me their two cents. Mostly people were agreeing with me, which most of the time I do not mind; but from time to time I enjoy people disargreeing with me completly to the point where they make me see things from there point of view. I like arguementive and persuasive comments. C'mon people don't be shy, I promise I won't bite, because I like to argue. :D
Friday, February 27, 2009
Why i love to blog
I enjoy blogging because unlike an essay you are able to let your thoughts flow freely and get more reviews and opinions on the subject then you would if it was written.
Whether you blog on blogger, face book, or myspace, your fellow writers are always able to look at it and give you positive or negative feedback on your thoughts. This may make or break you, but it is always interesting to see what other people have to say about your paradimes.
The bad thing about it though is that because it IS on the net it also makes it simple for others to steal your words and claim them as your own, though I doubt it rarely happens it something I've always pondered if writers were daunted about.
I enjoy blogging though because it gives me a chance to vent, share my thoughts, and have my friends give their opinion no matter where they are. Over the past 2 years my friends have been moving in and out of my life, but thanks to the net we are always able to share a creative blog though the net; a benefit that without we would need 42 cents to buy a stamp with every thought that wanted to be shared.
Got to love technology!!
Whether you blog on blogger, face book, or myspace, your fellow writers are always able to look at it and give you positive or negative feedback on your thoughts. This may make or break you, but it is always interesting to see what other people have to say about your paradimes.
The bad thing about it though is that because it IS on the net it also makes it simple for others to steal your words and claim them as your own, though I doubt it rarely happens it something I've always pondered if writers were daunted about.
I enjoy blogging though because it gives me a chance to vent, share my thoughts, and have my friends give their opinion no matter where they are. Over the past 2 years my friends have been moving in and out of my life, but thanks to the net we are always able to share a creative blog though the net; a benefit that without we would need 42 cents to buy a stamp with every thought that wanted to be shared.
Got to love technology!!
Friday, February 20, 2009
Teen pregnancy SUMMERY
Regardless of the reason.....Religion, beliefs (anti-abortions, pro-life), guilt, correcting your mistakes, you have nothing better going on; I believe that it is imperative that girls wait until they get as much education, knowledge, and experiences before they become mothers.
Back in the day education systems didn't think that women needed schooling if they were just going to become homemakers and mothers. Then the education system changed and claimed "well how are women suppose to educate their children if they themselves do not have the benefit of advanced knowledge?" Then we were able to attend college. Presently we not only have the benefit of being able to attend college, but have and maintain a career the way a man can. I believe that all women should take advantage of the opportunity to become more educated for her own benefit. If she decided that she wants to take that knowledge just to become a better mother, or to become president, she should TAKE ADVANTAGE OF IT.
Don't be another statistic, make something of yourself and become a better person, you deserve it.
Back in the day education systems didn't think that women needed schooling if they were just going to become homemakers and mothers. Then the education system changed and claimed "well how are women suppose to educate their children if they themselves do not have the benefit of advanced knowledge?" Then we were able to attend college. Presently we not only have the benefit of being able to attend college, but have and maintain a career the way a man can. I believe that all women should take advantage of the opportunity to become more educated for her own benefit. If she decided that she wants to take that knowledge just to become a better mother, or to become president, she should TAKE ADVANTAGE OF IT.
Don't be another statistic, make something of yourself and become a better person, you deserve it.
Friday, February 13, 2009
Teen pregnancy-outcome.
It has been scientifically proven that intelligence is 60% hereditary and 40% environmental. Therefore, if a infant is being raised by two parents who are high school dropouts, it chances of having a high intelligence are rare. Hopefully after the child is born, the parents will be able to go back to school (a chance to gain back that 60%); and/or even better, they will find a safe living environment for that child (a chance to be able to depend on that 40%).
Most of the time that when a child is born unplanned, one parent will have to nurture while the other parent does most of the money making, or a grandparent will be lend a helping hand. With hard work and a little luck, the baby will be well taken care of and a unplanned mistake will elicit into an unexpected surprise.
But what of the children born into families who have no good hereditary genes for intelligence, and their living conditions are inadequate? What are the parents to do then?
Yesterday I was reading an article on the Internet called "Presidency fuels abortion debates." It was about how the Obama administration to work on legalizing abortion-rights and help strengthen family-planning programs. It explained how women should be entitled to their rights to be able to have an abortion if they so please. Now I am pro-choice, and do not think that women should "abuse," the opportunity, but more use it as a "lesson learned." Of course adoption is always an option, but that's hardly the argument in this case.
Let's face is 60% is a huge percentage to be putting on your innocent children, and 40% is not enough to depend on. I think that if a mother makes a mistake then she should have every right to be entitled to have a second chance at a better future. Plus, with the way our economy is going to hell in a handbag, our nation can not afford to have anymore irresponsible people running around.
Some people are anti-abortion; well I AM ANTI-STUPID people in my nation.
-Burger :)
Most of the time that when a child is born unplanned, one parent will have to nurture while the other parent does most of the money making, or a grandparent will be lend a helping hand. With hard work and a little luck, the baby will be well taken care of and a unplanned mistake will elicit into an unexpected surprise.
But what of the children born into families who have no good hereditary genes for intelligence, and their living conditions are inadequate? What are the parents to do then?
Yesterday I was reading an article on the Internet called "Presidency fuels abortion debates." It was about how the Obama administration to work on legalizing abortion-rights and help strengthen family-planning programs. It explained how women should be entitled to their rights to be able to have an abortion if they so please. Now I am pro-choice, and do not think that women should "abuse," the opportunity, but more use it as a "lesson learned." Of course adoption is always an option, but that's hardly the argument in this case.
Let's face is 60% is a huge percentage to be putting on your innocent children, and 40% is not enough to depend on. I think that if a mother makes a mistake then she should have every right to be entitled to have a second chance at a better future. Plus, with the way our economy is going to hell in a handbag, our nation can not afford to have anymore irresponsible people running around.
Some people are anti-abortion; well I AM ANTI-STUPID people in my nation.
-Burger :)
Friday, February 6, 2009
A teen mothers defense
For some teenage mothers an "unplanned pregnancy" is an "unexpected surprise," as "tomato" is to "tamoto;" and can say that she is excited to kick start her new life.
I think that there are some benefits to a teenage girl becoming an unexpected mother such as her becoming more wise;she realizes she cannot lead an immature lifestyle for much longer. Hopefully she will think twice about any other decision that can affect her for a lifetime and be more open to better decisions while in the meanwhile learning to say no with a smile.
For some girls they just cannot say no, for fear of rejection from her "friends" and those who look up to her. Therefore, she acts on every opportunity wheather it could get her in trouble or not. Most of these decision involve, harmful parties, drug experimentation, hanging out with dangerous people etc....She then wonders why she partakes in such acts, or how she even got dragged into the lifestyle in the first place.
For girls such as they these, they cannot quit until they are have hit rock bottom, and realize that if they do not change their ways they will not have a beneficial life for their offspring. I believe that everything happens for a reason, and if an unplanned pregnancy and the well-being of your offspring is what takes for you to get it into gear, you will accelerate in the write direction.
-burger
I think that there are some benefits to a teenage girl becoming an unexpected mother such as her becoming more wise;she realizes she cannot lead an immature lifestyle for much longer. Hopefully she will think twice about any other decision that can affect her for a lifetime and be more open to better decisions while in the meanwhile learning to say no with a smile.
For some girls they just cannot say no, for fear of rejection from her "friends" and those who look up to her. Therefore, she acts on every opportunity wheather it could get her in trouble or not. Most of these decision involve, harmful parties, drug experimentation, hanging out with dangerous people etc....She then wonders why she partakes in such acts, or how she even got dragged into the lifestyle in the first place.
For girls such as they these, they cannot quit until they are have hit rock bottom, and realize that if they do not change their ways they will not have a beneficial life for their offspring. I believe that everything happens for a reason, and if an unplanned pregnancy and the well-being of your offspring is what takes for you to get it into gear, you will accelerate in the write direction.
-burger
Friday, January 30, 2009
All it takes is a 2 minute walk.
So Professor Marchant said that I could blog about whatever I wanted, as long as it was a public issue; quite frankly I am tired of blogging about complaints at SLCC because it just makes me feel like I'm being ungrateful to be in school. So I am going to blog about sincerely whats on my mind, and thats unplanned pregnancy.
In 2008, about 6 out of 10 girls I was acquainted with that year, got pregnant. None of which were expected and none of which were financially secure.
When I first hear news about my girlfriends getting pregnant I always ask the same thing "So, what are you going to do now?" And I always hear the SAME answer: "What do you MEAN? I'm going to have it, and keep it."
Now maybe it's just me, because it's in my nature to over-analyze every little thing, but am I the ONLY girl in her teens who thinks that it's not okay to bring an innocent child in the world that is perhaps not going to be able to be taken care of physically, emotionally, and financially? One out of ten of my friends now has to drop out of college this year to have her child, because everyone is telling her that she now needs to "handle her problems and take care of her mistakes." Now every time I look at this girl all I can think about is all the education she will be behind on, and maybe even miss out on if she cannot go back. Another one girl I knew had a son who just passed his 1st birthday, and she couldn't even afford to buy him a birthday cake because diapers and food alone had broke her wallet. I think that in order to raise a child properly you need to make sure you yourself as a parent are ready. If you don't even have the money to pay your own bills, clean your own body, and put food in your own stomach, what makes you think that you are ready to do it for the life of your offspring?
I'm not saying that my friends are bad parents because that is not true; I think the only thing that is cooler then my friends are a mini-me version of my friends, BUT if there is one thing I do not enjoy, it is seeing my friends suffer. They are amazing people who will teach their children amazing things, but will now have to miss out on their 20's because they couldn't think twice about what they were doing. ALL it takes, is a 2 minute walk down to the Health and Wellness Office, and just simply ask "May I have some condoms?"
In 2008, about 6 out of 10 girls I was acquainted with that year, got pregnant. None of which were expected and none of which were financially secure.
When I first hear news about my girlfriends getting pregnant I always ask the same thing "So, what are you going to do now?" And I always hear the SAME answer: "What do you MEAN? I'm going to have it, and keep it."
Now maybe it's just me, because it's in my nature to over-analyze every little thing, but am I the ONLY girl in her teens who thinks that it's not okay to bring an innocent child in the world that is perhaps not going to be able to be taken care of physically, emotionally, and financially? One out of ten of my friends now has to drop out of college this year to have her child, because everyone is telling her that she now needs to "handle her problems and take care of her mistakes." Now every time I look at this girl all I can think about is all the education she will be behind on, and maybe even miss out on if she cannot go back. Another one girl I knew had a son who just passed his 1st birthday, and she couldn't even afford to buy him a birthday cake because diapers and food alone had broke her wallet. I think that in order to raise a child properly you need to make sure you yourself as a parent are ready. If you don't even have the money to pay your own bills, clean your own body, and put food in your own stomach, what makes you think that you are ready to do it for the life of your offspring?
I'm not saying that my friends are bad parents because that is not true; I think the only thing that is cooler then my friends are a mini-me version of my friends, BUT if there is one thing I do not enjoy, it is seeing my friends suffer. They are amazing people who will teach their children amazing things, but will now have to miss out on their 20's because they couldn't think twice about what they were doing. ALL it takes, is a 2 minute walk down to the Health and Wellness Office, and just simply ask "May I have some condoms?"
Thursday, January 22, 2009
Help! I need somebody....
This semester, I am taking math 1010. Since I am a highschool drop-out I had to take developmental math to work my way up to college level. Last semester I had an amazing professor by the name of Lorie Paxton, and she taught me very well. I just wish I could say that about my Math professors for 1010.
I am not trying to hate on the math professors at SLCC, but I personally think that if people are constantly switching, and dropping, maybe even failing your classes that you should do something about your learing style. I've switched my math classes twice, and I am still unsatisfied and lost, and am genuinly considering trying to teach myself the material in the learning center because its just too difficult to sit through a lecture where the professor assumes that people are following along. I've talked to a few of my friends to see if anybody could possiable help me with the issue, but everyone I know in 1010 is having the same problem.
I hope to one day teach Commerial Art to junior high students and seriously hope I do not be a teacher who bores and leaves students lost. Its something to think about. So if you are commenting this and know an amazing math 1010 professor let me know!!
I am not trying to hate on the math professors at SLCC, but I personally think that if people are constantly switching, and dropping, maybe even failing your classes that you should do something about your learing style. I've switched my math classes twice, and I am still unsatisfied and lost, and am genuinly considering trying to teach myself the material in the learning center because its just too difficult to sit through a lecture where the professor assumes that people are following along. I've talked to a few of my friends to see if anybody could possiable help me with the issue, but everyone I know in 1010 is having the same problem.
I hope to one day teach Commerial Art to junior high students and seriously hope I do not be a teacher who bores and leaves students lost. Its something to think about. So if you are commenting this and know an amazing math 1010 professor let me know!!
Thursday, January 15, 2009
Textbooks on campus
This semester I am taking the minium of 12 credits, yet it managed to ring up a damage of 6 books. Coming up with the money for the books wasn't a problem because I have a full pellgrant, but having to transport these books with me everywhere on center along with my other backpack nesscessities, and a tote-bag is. I have a very decent carry-on backpack. It is well made, has lots of storage space, and strong zippers. But even the strongest backpack won't save your spine and posture from being sore and possiably injured when you have to hull 6 textbooks across campus all day. I was told that it would be smart to invest in the roller backpacks because they are easier on your back, unfortunatly my pelgrant couldn't afford in that. I thought about saving up some money in hopes to one day buy it, but after seeing the pull-handle hiliariously break off of my friends Dom's backpack I thought maybe it wasn't such a smart investment. So here I am stuck with 6 heavy textbooks in my backpack.
I see lockers all around campus, but I never see any of them being used. Sometimes I wonder why they are even there. I think that if you have a certain number of textbooks/credits then you should be legiable to use one of these lockers for a semester.
I think that student body should rent lockers out to people that need them. I know that I wouldn't mind having to walk across campus to accquire my textbooks, it would be much better then having to carry them up flights of stairs, in between classes etc...besides it would be good excercise, and make my back happy.
-burger
I see lockers all around campus, but I never see any of them being used. Sometimes I wonder why they are even there. I think that if you have a certain number of textbooks/credits then you should be legiable to use one of these lockers for a semester.
I think that student body should rent lockers out to people that need them. I know that I wouldn't mind having to walk across campus to accquire my textbooks, it would be much better then having to carry them up flights of stairs, in between classes etc...besides it would be good excercise, and make my back happy.
-burger
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